1. Before planning anything, did you and your partner discuss what you actually value in a wedding?
2. How much of your wedding planning is driven by what you've seen on Instagram or Pinterest?
3. Are you planning elements of your wedding that you don't actually care about but feel you "should" have?
4. Have you written your own vows (or are you planning to)?
5. How intentional are you being about the guest list?
6. Are you making wedding decisions based on what will make your guests comfortable, or what feels authentic to you?
7. Have you considered the environmental impact of your wedding?
8. How are you handling family pressure to plan a wedding that doesn't reflect your values?
9. Are you planning to be fully present on your wedding day, or are you worried about managing logistics?
10. When you imagine looking back at your wedding in 20 years, what do you most want to remember?